Achieve Happiness - Accept What Is.

A few weeks after my breakup, life was great. I quit the job I hated, got one I loved; in addition to finding 5 other side gigs. I was racking in the dough, keeping busy, seeing people all the time. It was great and left little to no time to think about the heartbreak. I thought I was 100% through the breakup. My frequency was high without a cloud in sight.

Then I went on vacation to Punta Cana. . . I was surrounded by couples 24/7 and had nothing to do but relax. And a relaxed mind wanders. . . I had a dream while I was there that I got back together with my ex. Needless to say, it got to me and put me in a funk that has lasted almost a MONTH! Certainly a setback. Since then, my energy and frequency have been low. The clouds descended in paradise. . .

We all know (maybe?) about the Law of Attraction - the energy you put out you receive in return. So I'd been really down on myself for being in a funk - emitting low energy. I've had this inner monologue on repeat: "Why are you sad? Why do you feel lonely? You were doing so well! You're a Badass and you KNOW it so why don't you FEEL it? What's wrong with you?" Not exactly a healthy train of thoughts to be circling around in your head for almost a month.

I was particularly hard on myself due to the fact that I'd experienced a high frequency of energy for so long and thought I'd made so much progress when in reality it felt like I was further back than I started without any apparent reason.

So I started trying to figure out the cause of why I felt so down. It wasn't because I missed my ex, I have been hanging out with friends a lot so I'm not sure why I felt lonely. While there are many things in my life that I'm not 100% content with at the moment (i.e. not losing weight and focusing on my health as I had initially set out to do, took a pay cut to get a job I love, etc.), none of those reasons felt like THE reason I was feeling down. I couldn't pinpoint it - it was frustrating and just perpetuated the negative thinking.

But then I had an epiphany! I had spent months practicing self-love and part of that is forgiving yourself. So I literally googled "how to love yourself." And it seems so obvious, but one of the steps said not to be so hard on yourself, don't be a critic of yourself, learn from your mistakes and move on. I knew this and a month ago I was a big proponent for going easy on yourself. But I lost sight of that when I went to Punta Cana.

Since realizing this, I have accepted the fact that I'm lonely and I get down sometimes, but it's okay! After accepting that, I've been going a lot easier on myself and no longer feel like I'm projecting negative energy out into the world. A weight has been lifted off my chest!

I think that accepting our present circumstances is a huge step to happiness. Once you accept your current predicament, it's almost as if the clouds part and the blue skies appear. I still feel a little down occasionally, but I now have the knowledge and clarity that this is a temporary circumstance and doesn't define who I am or who I will be. "The Sun Will Come Out Tomorrow" has been cycling through my head on repeat since this realization - and I BELIEVE it in my bones.